Useful tips
We have written a complete, 100% practical guide for ordinary guys who do not know how to communicate with a girl in person and in correspondence to please her.
They are so amazing that it takes your breath away and you… have absolutely no idea what to do about it… So we decided to help you and tell you what to do if you like a girl.
The main rule is to be real. All of these hints work as long as you don't pretend to be someone else and don't fake it. When a man behaves naturally, a girl feels relaxed and realizes that she can trust him. But unnatural actions can strain her a lot.
There are no such “iron” tricks to make a girl fall in love with you forever. But by following these techniques, you can instantly become more attractive to her, which means you'll significantly increase your chances of being liked by her.
15 rules on how to chat with a girl offline to make her like
1. Make eye contact
Often, when a man wants a woman to “warm up” for him, he rehearses for a long time what he will say about himself, how he will approach him, and practices body language. We will discuss these things below. But the first thing to remember is that the most natural step when meeting a new person is to make eye contact long before you speak to her.
When you're standing next to a girl trying to say hello, think about how weird it is: a girl hears a speech before she even sees the person saying it.
So before you even speak, stand next to her for a few minutes (walk next to her to order a drink, run next to her on the treadmill, pretend to be considering too shop window) and then when you see her, smile and say hello in a few seconds.
2. A simple “Hello” instead of “Mademoiselle, you're overshadowing the sun!”
If you train a lot to approach a girl, you probably think that the main thing is to be very original.
But a woman is figuring out a “far-fetched strategy” at once, and for her this is a red flag. So how do you like a girl? Instead of figuring out a way to surprise her with something she never heard, try to surprise her with something fresh and unboring and start with a simple “Hi!”
3. Work on your posture
This is the most powerful and natural thing you can do to be confident in your attractiveness. Here's why:
Good posture instantly makes you feel taller and stronger when you approach a woman. Sit down, stretch your head up, raise your chin slightly (only slightly) – this is very easy to do.
You feel taller/stronger with good posture… and it helps to “see” you. You immediately radiate high, powerful confidence (do we need to emphasize that confidence is attractive?).
So to make you look more attractive to a girl, stand up/sit upright when chatting with her.
4. Talk about common interests
How can you even find out about such interests? If you've been trying to speak to a girl in a place where you already have an interest (coffee shop, park, gym, shop), then your natural connection is obvious — you have a common interest in this place!
Now how do you use this? After you say “Hi” to her, talk about this place. For example,
You're waiting for a barista at the coffee shop: “This place has the best coffee selection. Have you tried lavender raff?” or “This is my first time here. What do you take for yourself?”
You've probably noticed that part of the welcome text is a question. Questions are a great way to break the ice because they instantly show that you value her opinion (which is a very desirable feeling for a woman).
But here's an important thing to remember: questions should sound natural. Don't ask a girl who orders tea what kind of coffee you should choose. Or a girl on the treadmill says how many kilograms she lifts in the deadlift.
5. Start learning body language
You need to start learning her body language after you've met a girl (you've had more than one meeting). Because if you focus on reading her gestures instead of listening to what she says, you're going to get a bad first impression of you.
But after you've made a good first impression, you can read her subconscious reactions through her body language… and send her the same signals.
Where do you start? Here are the signs to look for (they all indicate she likes you):
Copying your movements – if she is interested, she will unconsciously repeat your postures, body positions, etc.
Higher/faster voice tone. Women tend to speak faster to a man they like, and their voices sound louder as a result.
The direction of her legs. She will subconsciously stand/sit with her knees and toes pointing at who she pays the most attention to.
Open body. She covers her body (with her arms crossed, her purse, or other obstacles) when she talks to someone she doesn't like.
She looks at you before she talks to someone else. She takes a quick look at whether you're paying attention to what she's about to say.
Read also: How to understand that a girl likes you by gestures and behavior: 30+ sure signs
And after you've seen some desirable signs, send the same signals in return: repeat her movements, look at her before you talk to someone else, etc. And she subconsciously She'll start to think you like her too.
Advice for the advanced: don't forget to take a moment to monitor these signals. Focus on her words.
6. Impress her
If you can impress a girl, consider yourself one step closer to victory. But how to do this, the question is… The days when you could offer to write off a math test or were the best at physical education are over. A smarter approach is needed these days. We will offer a couple of options:
Invest in stylish clothes that highlight your personality.
Take care of hygiene. You might be surprised how much showering and shaving can do.
Offer her help. Find an opportunity to show her your value. Is she looking for someone to help carry the boxes? Let's get down to business!
Show that you're a good person. Be kind not only to her, but also do good things for others.
Take the initiative. Be brave without being brazen. Stop walking around the bush, show her what you're feeling. Even if she isn't ready to answer you yet, she'll be impressed with your determination and confidence.
Follow your hobbies. Make your dreams come true! If you're into racing, try karting. Are you burning with music? Play live. Do what makes you happy and do it well!
Stay close to her. Sometimes girls just need a friend to lean on in times of need. Be available to listen and offer advice. Show her you're the one she needs.
7. Make her laugh
Humor brings people together. If you know how to make a girl laugh, you have a huge advantage!
And remember naturalness. You don't want to be treated like a clown. Don't compete with anyone, just have fun with her. Girls can tell when you're trying too hard.
Have some funny questions in store. This way you can prepare yourself to talk to her and hopefully make her laugh.
When you have questions like this, you're in control rather than relying on your improvisation skills. We will offer a couple of options to choose from, but you will definitely come up with your own:
If you had chosen your own name as a child, what would you be called?
Do you have a pet? If you were an animal, what would you be?
What was the worst time you ever tried to meet you?
This question might lead to some funny answers worth making into a teen comedy. Plus he shows her that you know she's attractive.
8. Discover her tastes
Opposites attract (only in some cases), but common interests can really help you like a girl.
Of course you're not the kind of guy who's into beadweaving. But you can show a genuine interest in her hobbies for music, cinema, and work. Ask her about it. This is how you show that you are interested in her inner world, and not just in her external beauty. And if her favorite band performs somewhere in town or shows an interesting movie, don't forget to invite her to a meeting.
9. Give her a real compliment
One well-thought-out compliment can do a miracle. Just make sure you hit the mark right, because a bad compliment will result in you being left behind.
It's very cool if you know how to say compliments so that the girl smiles. Not banal! In other words, “you're hot” isn't the best approach.
Here are some nice phrases to warm up, but you should consider your option, taking into account the specifics of the girl:
Your eyes are so amazing that I've forgotten what I wanted to say.
The world is a better place when you're in it.
Love your laughter!
Read also: 150 sweet and short compliments to a girl to make her fall in love
We're sure you'll find words that will make a girl feel like a million.
10. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself
That's a really cool question — would you like an insecure, selfish girl who's constantly checking who feels about her?
Of course not. And she doesn't want a guy like that either… so she immediately pulls away when a guy takes himself too seriously. So don't be afraid to be funny, show her that you're confident enough to laugh at yourself. And that you think a lot more about her laughing genuinely than what others think of you.
So laugh, after all, all the scariest things in the world are done with a serious face.
11. Be independent
Girls love guys who have their own interesting lives.
If you're a determined, accomplished, independent person with your own job, home, hobbies, passions, friends, and life in general, it'll be much easier for you to get a girlfriend.
Have the points not been worked out somewhere? Do everything you can to do that. Once you balance your life, girls will fly like moths into the light. And even if you take small steps to improve your situation, this will show the girl that you are growing and developing, and this is a valuable quality.
12. Go with the flow. Or move on
This sentence has two parts. The first part means you want to learn as much as you can about it and see if it's worth your time. So you should focus on the conversation, and if it goes smoothly, you don't strain yourself, you're having fun — go on!
But if a girl “freezes”, looks at the phone, says that she has a boyfriend, let her go and find a friendlier girl with whom you will definitely have something to talk about. Isn't that a great prospect? If you learn to understand what lies ahead, it will make you more confident and attractive to the opposite sex.
13. Give her time and space
When separated, the feeling grows stronger. Do not try to quickly take over her thoughts and schedule, otherwise she may regard you as an annoying boyfriend. And you don't need this. A healthy relationship presupposes that each couple has their own independent, fulfilling life.
Of course, you don't need to be away for a week. Just don't bother her with constant messages and requests to meet. Respect her way of life and let her know you're the one (or not) she needs.
14. Make her day special
For example, if you know she's on a late shift, meet her and escort her home, and hand her a box of hot, delicious dinner at the door. If you're a creative type you can create something special just for her. A picture, a song, or even a silly meme can really warm her heart.
15. Invite her to go out together
If you don't offer her this, then all the previous steps were in vain. And guys, don't wait too long before you do this because chances are a girl will get used to the idea that you're just a friend and find herself a real boyfriend.
If you've just met, wait a few days. And if you've known her for a long time, you need to be careful. First, distance yourself for a while so she starts missing you. Then try some of the steps above before asking her to meet.
You've read this article to the end, so you're in for a bonus! Below you will find 10 short tips on how to please a penpal. And here, too, the rules of communication described above apply in real life — to be natural, to remember her interests, and so on.
How to chat with a pen pal to make her like you
Write about something that will make her smile. Don't write about boring and nervous things. Mix words with cool pictures and videos.
Write short messages. 2-3 sentences are enough. And make sure you're writing correctly!
Don't replace phone calls and live dates with text messages. Texting between meetings is a great way to extend your connection and even increase it.
Make jokes, flirt and flirt. You can give her a funny playful nickname. Use the situations that happened to you as a basis for jokes. Or tease her about what she's currently studying or what she's passionate about.
In correspondence, it is easy to bring you to a topic that you are particularly interested in. Say what you're thinking, ask her short questions to find out more about her. Encourage her to express her opinion (remember that it is important for girls to value their opinion).
Talk about topics that interest her. And be sure to answer “right away”, remember to show yourself to be an attentive person who is really interested in her life.
Be persistent, but don't be annoying. Don't overwhelm her with messages when you know she's at school or work. The red flag that you are overdoing it is the girl's silence after several messages.
Adjust to her writing style. Remember copying poses in real conversation? And this is possible here. Does the girl write in short sentences? Does he use emojis? Mirror this!
Know when to respond. We'll tell you a few rules.
Do not write a new message if the girl did not reply to the previous one.
Wait about as long as she waited before answering. If she replies every few hours, don't text her as soon as you get an answer from her. Otherwise, she'll think you've got nothing to do with your life.
Don't focus too much on how long to wait, remember — everything should be natural.
10. Encourage her to respond. Show the girl that you're going to move on to real meetings, not just stay a pen pal. See how she feels about this.
Women love brave, reliable and original guys, and you'll pretty quickly understand how she feels about you. If the answer is no, then rest assured that with these tips you will easily find one that will definitely be crazy about you!