Incredible facts
Almost every one of us wakes up a little energy vampire at different times.
How do you know if you're pulling life energy from other people and using others' emotions for your own purposes?
This quick quiz will help you find out the answer to this question.
See also: Types of energy vampires and how to calculate a bloodsucker by date of birth
Answer yes or no to the next 10 questions. Try to answer honestly!
Test: Are you an energy vampire?
1. Do you think others don't understand you and your concerns?
2. Do you feel like there are so many obstacles in your life that you have no control over them?
3. Do you often ask for help and you feel that few people respond to your requests?
4. Do you feel like you're not getting the attention and recognition you deserve?
5. Do others complain that you don't listen to them even though you don't think they're listening to you?
6. Do you think other people's lives are much easier than yours?
7. Do you often quarrel with friends and family?
8. If so, do you think it's usually their fault?
9. Does it happen that people suddenly cut off contacts with you without explanation and refuse to communicate with you?
10. Do you often feel helpless and feel like you can't change your life?
Results:
0-2 points — Congratulations! You don't show signs of energy vampirism.
3-5 points — You have a penchant for energy vampirism. It's time to review your behavior and change things. If you're fixated on yourself, start to be interested in other people. Don't blame yourself, you've been honest with yourself, which means you're on your way to positive change.
6-8 points — You are an energy vampire. Your loved ones may feel exhausted when you exhibit certain behaviors—for example, being discouraged but refusing to help. Perhaps this behavior was the result of past traumas. Be more lenient and start with small changes.
9-10 points — You are a powerful energy vampire who sucks energy from other people. What motivates you to act like this? Fear? Anger? Don't be afraid to ask for help. People will appreciate your commitment to change.
Energy Vampire People
Vampires are often presented as mystical creatures from horror movies. In fact, energy vampires live among us, even though they don't look as we imagine them to be.
Basically, energy vampires are people who draw vitality out of you. Do you know someone who, by his mere presence, spreads negativity? Do you feel exhausted after talking to a specific acquaintance or family member? If you answered yes to these questions, an energy vampire may be present in your life.
All energy vampires suffer from low self-esteem, but not all people with low self-esteem are vampires.
An emotional vampire has 3 main features:
Excessive need for recognition and attention
The belief that everything that happens to them is not their fault
Failure to understand the mechanisms of self-defense
Modern vampires do not suck blood, but draw out your happiness, energy and even desire live. They feed on negative emotions and they only consciously or subconsciously feel happy when you're unhappy.
How to recognize an energy vampire:
You feel emotionally exhausted around certain people
You may feel dizzy and weak when you are present or while talking to a person (even on the phone)
You often have a headache or feel tired after meeting an energy vampire, even in a crowded place
You feel heavy next to an energy vampire
Your eyelids are getting heavy and you want to fall asleep right away after talking to an energy vampire
After meeting a person, you are depressed, pessimistic, and unmotivated
Energy Vampire Signs
1. They consider their opinion a fact
Energy vampires are convinced that their opinion is above all else, and it is always right. They can even present their opinion as a fact or a given.
For example, you bought yourself a new dress. Your vampire friend might say, “God, where did you get such a terrible dress? It's ugly, don't ever wear it again.”
Some may think this is a sign of honesty, but the truth can be told in many ways. An energy vampire does not think about the consequences of his words or actions, and whether they will hurt a person.
2. They constantly complain about their problems
Remember when you're talking to a family member or friends, what's the first thing you're talking about? Do you start with the good news and ask the other person how their day was, or do you immediately start complaining and criticizing others? If the person you're talking to nods politely while you keep describing your bad experience, you're most likely an energy vampire.
Analyze your communication with others and remember your conversations. If they consist entirely of complaints, it's time to switch and start looking for advantages in any situation.
3. They play on guilt to get what they want
Many of us use guilt when we need to get something. If this is your constant tactic, people around you will feel like you're taking away their energy.
Phrases like “Go have fun while I'm sitting here doing household chores” or “I had to leave my sick mother for you” energy vampires use to summon you guilt. Through emotional manipulation, they take energy from others, justifying their actions, increasing self-esteem, or using them to achieve their goals.
4. They make themselves look unhappy
It is important for an energy vampire to receive the sympathy and pity of others. He can constantly talk about failures in his life, often exaggerating his misfortunes, expecting others to comfort and feel sorry for him.
Such a person can ask for advice in a difficult situation, while not showing any interest when others offer a constructive solution. In fact, a vampire does not need advice, but only wants to get energy at the expense of others.
5. They consider themselves better than others
Many energy vampires consider themselves to be the stars of their own show. When talking to them, all conversations revolve around their lives, work, dogs. If you're trying to share details of your life, the vampire immediately takes the conversation to himself.
He can spend hours talking about what he did, what he thinks was right, preventing others from getting into the monologue.
6. They inspire fear
Energy vampires love to spread fear. The end of the world, conspiracies, accidents — all these topics are vividly discussed by bloodsuckers with those who are ready to listen to them.
There's nothing wrong with sharing information that can help prevent bad or dangerous events. However, this behavior often makes others feel afraid and drains their energy.
7. They think they're always right
Some vampires are so stubborn and self-confident that they don't believe anything they're told, even if you're presenting them with the facts in person.
Such people don't like to admit they're wrong or follow other people's instructions. This position blocks the flow of energy between the vampire and other people, preventing the vampire from growing and developing.
8. They don't consider themselves to be responsible for their problems
The emotionally dependent behavior of vampires often causes negative reactions from others and alienates people. But instead of thinking that their remarks were offensive, rude, or unpleasant, they prefer to think that they are surrounded by idiots, scoundrels, liars, and so on.
How to protect yourself from an energy vampire
Knowing how to protect your energy and well-being when you're around an energy vampire is essential. The following steps can help you avoid anxiety, exhaustion, and malaise after talking to vampires.
1. Cut an energy vampire out of your life (if possible)
If you can't avoid contact with an energy vampire (like your boss or family member), significantly limit contact with them. If this is your ex-husband and you're forced to hang out with him because of your kids, keep contacts to a minimum and use technology. For example, write a message instead of negotiating over the phone.
2. Set boundaries
Plan meetings with them so that your meetings are strictly limited in time and space. For example, you might meet at a café but not invite that person to your home. Set the end time for your meeting.
3. Don't have high hopes
If you are dealing with a narcissist, remember that such people are not capable of empathy. You shouldn't expect that from them. Do not open your soul to such a person to avoid further disappointment that you did not find the right understanding in him.
4. Get busy for a vampire
This approach is referred to as the “broken wing” strategy. When a vampire tries to annoy you with conversations, say that you feel unwell or very tired. The energy vampire will start looking for another source, because he does not want to be near a person from whom energy cannot be drawn.
5. The “grey stone” method
Act like a “grey rock” next to a vampire. Don't entertain him. Don't give up your energy. Let's give boring, one-syllabic answers. Don't respond to them by trying to be a good listener by providing your empathy and support, and they'll lose interest.
6. Don't overreact
Stay calm, focused, and undisturbed when dealing with an energy vampire. When you lose your temper, it can stir up a vampire and make your condition worse.
7. Assess the situation soberly
Ask one of your friends or family members to take a sober assessment of the situation — someone you trust who can assess from the outside when another begins to vampire you.
See also: The main vampires among the zodiac signs or who drinks your blood and how
8. Refuse politely
There's nothing wrong with turning down a person you don't want to chat with. Learn to say no, and remember that the word “no” can be a complete sentence.
You can say it politely and calmly and remain a loving and empathetic person who doesn't allow himself to become a “rag”.
There are also a few more tips to cleanse yourself and protect yourself from energy vampires:
Take a sea salt bath or swim in the sea if possible
Meditate or walk in nature while concentrating on the present to gain strength
Use herbs like sage to clear your aura
Imagine protective light all around you. This will help you stay neutral without allowing the person's words and actions to influence you.